Whenever I sit down for a conversation with my married friends, they try (really try!) telling me the complications of a married life. I agree to some of their points, yes they’re valid.. I do believe in a fact. “Every relationship is important.” When it comes down to partner (wife, in my case), this is more important and becomes a very vital aspect of our lives. I AGREE. Now coming to the topic—Marriage. Does it really change us? Don’t you all agree that we have relationships with various people from childhood? Do those relations change you? No. The reason is we being ourselves with fewer expectations and less influences. We never force ‘anyone’ to act like as we do or think; ‘anyone’ includes our parents, siblings, friends, neighbors, teachers, fellow students, fellow colleagues, etc. Then why in the hell we try changing our partners? Why can’t we accept the way they’re? They are grown-ups; they know their morality (at least to some extent); don’t you feel bad when someone tries to change you, or the way you think, or the way you do things, or the way you see life? I’m sure you will. Then, why wouldn’t they? However, I agree that not all of us are matured enough to ‘think’ and ‘act’ right; but I also put up a fact that no one will change just because it is told. They may, but it doesn’t last longer. The point is they have to realize it themselves (may be repeated telling; but definitely not forcing) or they have to decide themselves to let the attitude go. Only then, they will adopt it for their life. After all life is full of learning, isn’t it? With good relationships, we do take a little closer step to guide them whenever things aren’t right or get guided when we are down; this usually happens on a mutual trust and care. If you call our partners really a ‘partner’, then where did the mutual trust and care go? Shouldn’t it be more?
When you really care, you listen. When you really listen, you understand. When you really understand, you think. When you really think, you act right. So everything goes well. So care your partner the way you did for all your relationships, much more than that. Also remember that this ‘partner’ is special, sharing all the ups and downs of our life. And also ensure that you don’t ruin theirs. Give them the respect for what they are and what they have got for you. Care, listen, understand, think, and then act. Don’t jump on please. If you follow this simple rule for your own life, you will never be in trouble.
